Forgiveness, The virtue of the brave

"Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting." ~ William Arthur Ward

In our life, we often come around people who do us some good and quite often around some who do us the opposite. We are grateful to the first but hold resentment against the later. I have seen many a times that people feels it hard to forgive others. I tried to find what people thinks about forgiveness. It was astonishing to see that people believes that one should forgive the wrong doer only because nothing can offend him more than the act of forgiveness. I was not quite convinced with it so I thought of discussing the matter with two of my great friends, physics and philosophy. I ranged them up and made up a plan to meet them one good sunny afternoon.

I first discussed the matter with Physics to which she said that, "We should always forgive people and love them for who they are, no matter how wrong they do to us because sometimes we can't understand the motive behinds ones deed, whether it is for our good or not."

Physics is difficult to understand and so is the thing she says. I was not quite able to understand what she said as I was of the mindset that the motive behind anyone doing someone wrong is always wrong, to which she contradicted and said, "We always abuse friction for slowing us down and eating up our energy but have we ever wonder that if there weren't any friction, then how would we have been able to start up our motion in the first place."

To this I asked her that this might be the reason but why don't friction changes its form so the next time we interact with it while we being in our motion, it do not slow us down. She said that, "Every thing in the world has its limitation, and so do friction. Friction knows its limitation and also knows that after playing a role in starting our motion, it also have to play a role in stopping us when we need to stop. As friction knows that it cannot change itself spontaneously from a non-opposing force to an opposing force, it remains constant and oppose our motion, so that we don't exceed our limit in addition to getting stopped safely at the point where we need to stop. As we have discussed earlier that every thing has an element of good in it, its just that we are unable to see that good in it, likewise, friction also interact with us, with best of the interest of us from the bottom of its heart and so do other, its just that we are not unable to understand them." This statement of her was quite convincing but i was not fully satisfied so i started discussing it with philosophy.

Philosophy said that there are only two kinds of people in this world, the one whom you care for and the one whom you don't. If anyone hurts you then he must be belonging to one of the above mentioned categories. If the one who hurt you is the one you care for, then you should forgive him as you want him to be happy and his action should not offend you as much as his happiness should please you. But if the one who hurt you is the one you don't care about, then there are many consideration that we should think about before making a mind of not forgiving him. These are, why should the actions of the that person effect you as they hold no importance in your life, why should the wrong doing on anyone make you do the same by hating him and why should you not forgive that person, change him for the good as you are the one who will be on the loosing side if that person don't change.

Further, we should also consider forgiving people because no one is perfect in this world and the action of that person might be the outcome of the miseries that the person might be undergoing. By holding resentment against that person, you might increase the pain inside him which might make him hurt you more in the future and forgiving him might help him clam down. And after all, its you who is good and not the other one so you should always do good. Further, Plato has once said, "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."

In the end, i would like to recall what Thomas Fuller has said, "He that cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself; for every man has need to be forgiven."

Always forgive others as it is no one other than you who deserve the peace and harmony and try not to hurt others.


~Love, Light and Truth;
Harshad Gupta

Delia apologizing to V in the movie "V For Vendetta"

Happening, for a good!

Sometime in our life, we ask "why me?" In our lifetime, some events go exactly the same way how we wanted it to go, but there are also some events which go completely the other way we wanted it to go and these events completely scatter us and we start wondering what wrong have we done to deserve it. We might have done something wrong to deserve that, but sometimes it happens to us even if we didn't do any thing wrong. So the million dollars question is why did it happen to us?

I am a lover, a lover of Physics. Physics is a great subject yet not easy to understand. So sometimes i take help of Philosophy, a beautiful sister of Physics, to understand Physics better. Being in contact with Philosophy not only helped me in understanding Physics but also helped me in understanding events, that take place everyday, in a better way. See how my difficulties with physics not only helped in learning about physics but also helped me in learning philosophy. (A proof that everything happens for a Good and every happening has a reason and a time.)

So, on one good sunny afternoon, i sat down with "Philosophy" and had a little chat with her. I asked her why do bad things happens with us. Her answer was short and simple. Her reply to my question was that nothing ever happens for bad, every happening have an element of good in it, its just that we don't have enough power/courage to see the good in it. I was astonished by her answer and out of surprise i asked her how can that be possible. Inspite of answering, she asked me a question. She asked me whether i know about CMS or not and if i do then what is it. Being a lover of Physics, i actually did knew about CMS so i told her that CMS is Compact Muon Solenoid which is one of the very large particle physics detector which detect extremely small particles like protons which has immense energy stored in it. She was impressed with my knowledge and said," we can't see protons but it exist and to see them we need extremely large instruments with great energy, as according to the law given by my sister "Physics", that to see the smallest of all things, one need to have the largest and most powerful of all thing. So every thing that happens, happens for the good, its just that we lack the power to see it". She continued," I will explain you with examples. Take case of Beatles, if they wouldn't had been turned down by a recording company to record their music, Beatles wouldn't had set up their own band, if Walt Disney wasn't been fired from a newspaper agency, he would't had started his own animation work, and the list goes on for ever. So the problem is not in the events that takes place, the problem is with us that we are unable to understand the good behind them".

So from that day, i have stopped wasting my time being sad about the things that didn't went my way, but started finding out the element of good in it by using which, i can benefit.

Love, Light And Truth;

Harshad Gupta

Love, essence of care!

Love is the most common word we hear. Many a times, we must have heard someone using the word "Love" for someone living (or in some case, that someone who is dead) like a mom saying to her child,"I love you", a child to his parents,"I love you", one friend to another,"I love you", a grandson exclaiming,"I loved my grand parents" and even a boy to his dog,"I love you". But sometime, we can also hear someone using the word "Love" for some non-living entity, like a student saying,"I love books", a footballer saying,"I love football", a painter saying, "I love painting" and even sometimes you can find me saying,"I love Physics".

As I have always been a dumb boy, I was unable to understand the meaning of love. So, I went out and asked the new age kids (not the "Indigo" ones, but the guys of my generation) about the meaning of love, to which they answered, "Love is spending time with 'Beautiful faces' that attracts us". But unfortunately, I was not quite convinced with the answer so I thought it would be better if I myself will try to answer this question.

So, I started my pursuit of finding what exactly love is. I googled love and the first thing I found about love was that love is an emotion. But this much knowledge was not enough, so I tried to find what is the effect of love on emotion. For this, I took help of Mathematics, one of the beautiful sister of Physics, and partially differentiate love to get what exactly love is.

So, what love comes out to be is like this:

Love is the beauty of your face. (from new age kid's frame of reference)

= Love is that we care for your smile which make your face beautiful (partially differentiating beauty with respect to smile)

= Love is that we care for your happiness which brings a smile on your face (partially differentiating smile with respect to happiness)

= Love is that we care for all those good times that makes you happy (partially differentiating happiness with respect to good times)

= Love is that we care for all those achievements of yours that makes up good time (partially differentiating good time with respect to achievements)

= Love is that we care for all those efforts put-in by you that makes you successful (partially differentiating achievement with respect to effort)

= Love is that we care for all that those requirement you need to put-in an effort (partially differentiating effort with respect to facilities)

= Love is that we care to work so as to fulfill all of your requirement (partially differentiating requirement with respect to work done by us)

= Love is that we care to love you which make us work for you (partially differentiating work done by us with respect to love)

= Love is that we care for all those people who loves you (partially differentiating love with respect to people who loves you)

= Love is that we care for all those care that makes people love you (partially differentiating love with respect to care)

So, love is that care that makes us care about everything that should be cared about to make you feel that you are being cared.

Now, this definition of love can hold good for someone living, but what about those time when we use the word "love" for non-living entity. For those time, we love something means we respect, care and appreciate the greatness of that thing because being with it makes us feel that we are being loved. Like when I say, "I love Mother Nature", I mean that I respect and care about Mother Nature because when I am close to her, I feel I am being loved and cared.

So, finally I got to know what love is and hopes that the "new age kids" can see the meaning of love from my frame of reference and understand that love is a very beautiful thing that can make us respect and care for every other thing in the world and which can make our world the best place to live where everybody lives in peace and harmony, being happy about other's success rather than fighting uselessly out of jealousy.

In the end, I would like to tell Holy Truth, Mother Nature, my parents, family, friends, Teachers, you, all living being and every other thing in this world that I respect you, I care for you and above all, I Love You.

~Caritas, Lux et Varitas;
The Unknown Poet.